Major Communication Problem....
Had been thinking about this issue Communication Problems.. I really feel that all along.. its me who has the problem, but yet refuse to see it... Why am i so foolish ???
I understand now...why does XY not want to talk to me ...or even share with me things... after much thinking...I really feel that I am such an ass sometimes... I really should learn to sit down and listen to what people have to say...patiently listening... not interupting...when it comes to sharing.. think of how the opposite party feels.. think why is he/she thinking it this way... and reason things out... rather than giving a definate NO ! or YES ! answer... I should have phrased it in a nicer manner.. as in .. "I think you should do this because ...." I used to object to her dying her hair cause it damages it badly.. but when she asked me if she should dye her hair.. i just replied NO ! and no reasoning was given... I mean if I were her .. I know how bad that feels.... and at the same time think of the other person's feelings... if the issue is starting to be a strain... just touch and go... do not dwell too long on that issue...DO not ADD oil to fire...
I gotta learn to be more understanding and feel for that person... rather than thinking from one side prospective... I should see the thing on a whole picture... and rather than talking talking talking (*which i am undoubtly good at*) I should really think what I say .. cause what comes out of that gap may really hurt someone's feelings....
One more thing.. I really regret making her look stupid at times... in front of her friends.. even in front of me... I guess .. everyone has a brain of their own .. and they can think for themselves what is right... sometimes..decisions should also be left to the person to make rather than making it for them.. it just makes them feel inferior that ok... u are smart and I am not...
I am changing bit by bit, day by day and I really am praying .. Daddy, make me a better person.. someone whom people would like to confide in... someone one who they can share their problems and at the same time... know that I care...I feel for them...
The problem really lies in me.. for whatever reason .. i don't know why I have failed to rectify the problem.. XY has hinted me many times.. but i fail to heed her promptings... but I know she meant well.. and she wants me to be a better person too...
Daddy.. I really am crying out to u ... only you can make this happen... I know its not within my physical ability...but my eyes are really on you.... I look to you...
I understand now...why does XY not want to talk to me ...or even share with me things... after much thinking...I really feel that I am such an ass sometimes... I really should learn to sit down and listen to what people have to say...patiently listening... not interupting...when it comes to sharing.. think of how the opposite party feels.. think why is he/she thinking it this way... and reason things out... rather than giving a definate NO ! or YES ! answer... I should have phrased it in a nicer manner.. as in .. "I think you should do this because ...." I used to object to her dying her hair cause it damages it badly.. but when she asked me if she should dye her hair.. i just replied NO ! and no reasoning was given... I mean if I were her .. I know how bad that feels.... and at the same time think of the other person's feelings... if the issue is starting to be a strain... just touch and go... do not dwell too long on that issue...DO not ADD oil to fire...
I gotta learn to be more understanding and feel for that person... rather than thinking from one side prospective... I should see the thing on a whole picture... and rather than talking talking talking (*which i am undoubtly good at*) I should really think what I say .. cause what comes out of that gap may really hurt someone's feelings....
One more thing.. I really regret making her look stupid at times... in front of her friends.. even in front of me... I guess .. everyone has a brain of their own .. and they can think for themselves what is right... sometimes..decisions should also be left to the person to make rather than making it for them.. it just makes them feel inferior that ok... u are smart and I am not...
I am changing bit by bit, day by day and I really am praying .. Daddy, make me a better person.. someone whom people would like to confide in... someone one who they can share their problems and at the same time... know that I care...I feel for them...
The problem really lies in me.. for whatever reason .. i don't know why I have failed to rectify the problem.. XY has hinted me many times.. but i fail to heed her promptings... but I know she meant well.. and she wants me to be a better person too...
Daddy.. I really am crying out to u ... only you can make this happen... I know its not within my physical ability...but my eyes are really on you.... I look to you...
